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Talking to My Parents

  1. Find a time that you and your parents can be comfortable and relaxed together.
  2. Make sure no one is focusing on something else while you are together (paying bills, watching TV, making dinner).
  3. Be honest and don't try to "sugar coat" your feelings of frustration, pain or anxiety.
  4. Allow your parents the opportunity to ask questions. You may be surprised to find out how much they already know or how many of your feelings you have been hiding from them.
  5. If what you need is just someone to listen to you, tell your parents that. It's not fair to them to appear to come for advice and then not take it.
  6. Try to remain calm when discussing your feelings about the disorder and your treatments.
  7. Discuss with them any problems you are facing at school, with friends or with the changes in your life.
  8. Talk to your parents about your next doctor visit and about any questions or concerns you may have, but are unable to talk to your doctor about.
  9. When you feel like you've told them everything you needed to, thank them for listening.
  10. If you feel like there are still feelings you need to talk about, set up a time with them to talk about it another day.
  11. If you feel like your parents did not understand what you were trying to say, try to find someone else (friend, counselor, or doctor) you can talk to. Your feelings are important, and it won't help to keep them inside.
  • Published: December 26, 2001
  • Updated: July 10, 2008