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Living with the Emotional Side of Scoliosis
Interview with Nancy L. Cantor, Ph.D. Dr. Cantor is a clinical psychologist and has been on staff in the Department
of Medical Social Work and Psychology at Primary Children's Medical Center for
21 years. She specializes in working with children with chronic medical problems.
She has also worked with the Rehabilitation Service for 9 years and with the
Spina Bifida Clinic for 21 years.
iScoliosis.com: What concerns do most teenage girls have when a
physical deformity like scoliosis is first diagnosed? How about their
parents?
Dr. Cantor: Both parents and teenagers will have concerns related to the type of treatment
that will be necessary and the prospect of progressive disability. The need
to make decisions about treatment will be stressful, and the possibility of
major surgery generally raises a high level of anticipatory anxiety. Teenagers
may be particularly concerned about the effects of scoliosis on physical appearance
and the effects on their attractiveness to the opposite sex. Teenagers confronted
with the prospect of wearing a brace will worry about the possibility of restrictions
on activities, social stigma and discomfort.
iScoliosis.com: How do most girls make themselves feel comfortable
in participating in an activity (PE, swimming, prom) that makes their deformity
obvious?
Dr. Cantor: Developing a positive self-image is the key to being comfortable in a variety
of life situations. In a society obsessed with beauty where we are constantly
bombarded with images of the "ideal," people who deviate significantly from
that "ideal" are confronted with even greater challenges in developing a positive
self-image. The process in developing a positive self-image is not really different,
however, for those with an obvious physical condition that affects appearance
or function than it is for the rest of the human race. Everyone struggles at
some level with his or her self-image. Fashion models who supposedly personify
society's ideal of beauty often question their physical attractiveness. If secure
regarding their appearance, they probably feel insecure about other aspects
of themselves such as their intellectual abilities. Beauty truly is not simply
skin-deep. It is not easy for any of us to develop a positive self-image, but
this is the key to coping with many of the challenges confronting us in life,
including living with scoliosis.
Taking the initiative to educate peers about scoliosis will help make others
more comfortable and accepting of the teenager with scoliosis. There will always
be some peers who are rejecting and make rude comments despite being educated
about scoliosis. Remember that the ones who tease others the most are the ones
who are most insecure themselves. Having a strategy for dealing with comments
or looks from others will be helpful. Ignoring is always one option, but these
situations may be ideal opportunities for educating others. Responding with
unexpected comments to teasing is another option, e.g., complimenting the person,
making a joke, agreeing with the person.
iScoliosis.com: What advice do you have for someone who is resistant
to the idea of wearing a brace to school? What are some possible strategies
for improving compliance with brace wear?
Dr. Cantor: Teenagers, like adults, may sometimes have trouble appreciating the long-term
implications of choices they make about their health care. Offering external
incentives to them for initially trying the brace may be a helpful strategy.
If the brace does not have to be worn full time, setting up schedules for wearing
the brace at times that are least disruptive to their lives will also improve
compliance. Helping them learn to deal with the social stigma of wearing a brace
will go a long way towards increasing compliance. Some teenagers prefer to wear
their clothes over a brace and choose clothes that make the brace less obvious.
iScoliosis.com: How can parents help their teenager cope with a physical
deformity?
Dr. Cantor: As with any problem their child might face, parents can first help by listening.
Listening means trying to truly understand how your child feels before attempting
to solve the problem or to give advice. Don't tell your child how he or she
should feel. How you would feel is not necessarily how your child feels. Accept
your teenager's feelings and communicate that you understand.
Nancy L. Cantor, Ph.D.
Primary Children's Medical Center
100 N. Medical Drive
Salt Lake City, UT 84113
| Published: December 19, 2001 |
Updated: July 06, 2005 |
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